Swinging in a relationship
By Taylor Williamson
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Has your partner been hinting at spicing up your relationship? Throwing out ideas like inviting other couples into your bedroom or attending swinger parties? Are you on the fence about whether you want to engage in this society? Before you make a decision, take the time to find out exactly what swinging is all about.
Link up with a close friend to see if they have an in within the swinging community or visit your local sex shop to learn the ropes. Try attending a few functions, going to dinner, or having coffee with couples who engage in swinging to discover how you feel. Afterwards, you and your partner can decide if you wish to engage in swinging activities. When attending these events, make a deal not to engage in any sexual activities for the first few visits. This way both of you can familiarize yourself with the environment and loosen your nerves. Find a website or friend who can answer any questions you have about this lifestyle.
If you have a structured relationship with a wonderful connection, then jumping into this lifestyle will help strengthen your communication. You will be more comfortable discussing intimate desires or fantasies with your partner. You will learn how to communicate nonverbally with one another when either of you are mingling with other couples. The only way you can both achieve closeness is if there is a mutual desire. Being nervous your first time is completely normal, however, if your partner is on the fence then put swinging on pause and work on your relationship. In order for this to work both parties need to be fully committed and prepared.
Don’t get discouraged if you feel upset afterwards as everyone feels positive and negative emotional reactions to swinging. To overcome these issues, your partner and you need to discuss them. Jealousy, insecurity, and fear are common emotions when dealing with sexual experiences involving other people. These feelings are not a sign of a failing relationship. After talking about these emotions openly, let your partner offer their opinion and reassurances. This will help strengthen your relationship immensely.
Swinging can tremendously enhance your relationship, but will not repair or fix a struggling one. Offering new and different sexual experiences, swinging allows you and your partner to explore different erotic options to grow closer as a couple. If you are looking to reconnect physically and emotionally, then your relationship will most likely succeed.
The swinging community is about having fun and enjoying your time. So, I recommend participating in activities which look exciting to you. However, don’t let anyone pressure you into doing something you are uncomfortable with. Try approaching every activity with an open mind and positive attitude. Mingle with members, get to know other couples, and stay within eye contact of your partner incase either of you find a potential couple to engage with
Swinging releases your inner fantasies while allowing you to explore your sexuality by engaging with both men and women who share the same desires in a safe environment. After a long term relationship, sex becomes a chore instead of a thrill. Swinging provides sexual variety, excitement, and the opportunity to live out fantasies as a couple. One of the most important factors in swinging is by the end of the night to leave having a positive feeling about yourself, your partner, and your relationship.
While there are many advantages within the swinging lifestyle, there can be some disadvantages as well. Many people experience jealously over their significant other being intimate with someone else. Swinging can intensify feelings of insecurities if one party is not fully embracing the experience or if the communication is not strong. To avoid jealousy, you must communicate with one another. Mostly, jealously is fear. Fear of being left out, abandoned, the unknown, or losing your loved one to someone better. If you feel any of these emotions, then you need to sit down with your partner and work things out before engaging in another swinger’s event. Opening up to your partner and discussing your issues with them will make it easier to discover the underlying issue.
Prepare to feel an emotional attachment to the couples you socialize and swing with. Share that with your partner to keep your relationship open and honest. Fun or not, you and your partner should always remember to play safe. When engaging in intimate encounters always use protection. Lastly, don’t let your significant other attend events without you. Remember, you’re in this together.